Monday, December 31, 2012

Sooo, Whadja Learn this Year?

Ahhh, the End Of The Year! It comes every 365 (and a fourth) days but somehow always surprises me. Also, it has a built-in feature which causes me to look back and reflect and look forward with hope. I was talking with my yoga teacher recently about New Year's RESOLUTIONS. She and I dislike that word and its connotations- it seems to set us up for failure. I resolve to lose weight, do more yoga, eat less bread, eat more vegetables, meditate more, complain less, travel more, ...and the list goes on, ad infinitum.

So what my teacher and I discussed is her concept not of resolutions, but of evolutions! Brilliant, I say! This life I get to have is a journey, right? An evolutionary journey. We reflected on lessons learned in 2012 and also where we'd like to head in 2013. I've been thinking about this for a few days and decided I to review what I've learned in 2012. I should be journaling more meticulously so this would be easier to call forth, but as a dear friend and mentor often says to me, "Don't should on yourself." Journaling is going to be part of my 2013 evolution.

So, here are some things I learned in 2012, in no particular order.

1. I'm okay just the way I am.
2. I need to let you be free to be you.
3. Snapple Green Tea is really delicious and I'm happy that Snapple is cool again.
4. Everyone has some shit going on in their life at any moment.
5. Don't take everything so personally.
6. The Universe really will take care of things if I stay out of the way and do the next right thing.
7. The spicy dried mango from Trader Joe's tastes delicious when used in a marinade along with garlic, ginger, sesame oil, rice vinegar and soy sauce. Marinade some salmon in that and you will not be sorry.
8. It's none of my business what you think of me.
9. I'm allowed to have a bad day even though I have everything I could possibly need.
10. My mother is a treasure that I am so fortunate to have.
11. Building real friendships is fun, totally rewarding, and takes some work.
12. Fantasy Football is a lot of fun.
13. I need down time every day.
14. Eddie Bauer fleece is the warmest without being bulky.
15. I met a LOT of really cool people on Facebook this year and consider them friends even though I haven't met most of them in real life.
16. I can't stand the thought of my dog getting older.
17. Kayaking by the light of the full moon is magical.
18. After 5 years of sobriety, I'm getting used to not drinking alcohol at parties.
19. I am amazed at the change in my body from doing yoga regularly.
20. I need to better organize my garden.
21. Heated car seats rock.
22. Meditation and prayer are directly related to my outlook each day.
23. PMS after age 40 is a real mother f*cker.
24. Love and tolerance of others is not always easy but is an excellent mantra.
25. I enjoy a cup of tea in the evening.
26. I'm proud to be from New Jersey despite of what the rest of the country thinks of my home state. 
27. I can wear shorts and be comfortable doing so.
28. Communication really is the key to a successful relationship and can be very difficult for me.

And so the evolution continues. Where do I want to be mentally, physically, and spiritually during the next year? What do I want to learn? What is working in my life? What's not working? How can I change that in a positive manner?

What about you? What did you learn this year? Where ya heading?
Do tell! Please share your ideas! We're on this road together, people. :)

I really want to focus on compassion and love for the next year. So if I see you, I might just give you a hug and tell you that I love you. Because I do. Very much.

Happy 2013, my friends!

 Chris and I in Jamaica.

Beautiful birthday flowers!


  1. You learned a lot, Amy! I like the word evolution rather than resolution, too... Happy New Year to you and Chris! xoxo

  2. I loved every one of these, Amy! Except I don't want to kayak by moonlight... I'll wave at you from the banks, cocktail in hand. I *do* want to get some spicy dried mango from Trader Joe's. YUM! And I do want to meet the coolest people on FB, you and Chris. Happy New Year, my friend. :)

  3. Evolutions makes more sense. I like the way you think. Happy New Year, Amy!

  4. you get better all the time

  5. Excellent list, Amy! I keep telling myself I'm a work in progress and so is everyone else. It helps me keep things in perspective. Wishing you and yours all the best in the New Year! :)

    1. Thanks, Daisy! Same to you, my friend! xo

  6. You got me thinking about my evolutions for 2013 .... Grateful to still be evolving ...that is for sure. you are the best ever! I enjoy the way you express yourself. Look at those yoga legs ...terrific!

    1. Thanks Mama! You are an inspiration to me to continue the evolution! I love you so very much. xo

  7. Great List Amy! I have learned this year that I can't control a lot of what happens to me I can only control how I react to and deal with it. For the next year, I am going to try to continue my journey into a healthier lifestyle. :) Happy New Year to you!!

    1. Thanks Sarah! I love your lesson learned, ain't it grand that you will get to practice it over and over throughout your life? ;) Happy New Year, girl! xo

  8. I can't think of much to say that won't start me weeping, but much love to you and this lovely post. Made me think and want to try a lot of things you have listed. And I've said it before, and I'll say it again - you are Chris are SO CUTE!!! <3

  9. I LOVE THIS POST! So sweet and honest. I have nothing to add because your list is perfect, Amy. I'll only say that I'm glad I met you (and Chris) in 2012. You make my life more interesting and fun.

    1. Aw, thanks, Cary! You have totally done the same for me, made my life more interesting and fun. Thank you for that and your friendship, my friend. :)

  10. I like #15. :) Great list, the only thing you forgot is "I am fabulous!" Because you are. Here is to a flippin' fantastic 2013.

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